There’s a version of change that gets all the attention.
The dramatic kind.
The kind with moving trucks, divorce papers, pink slips, diagnoses, and goodbye speeches.
The kind everyone can point to and say, “Well, of course she’s going through something.”
But there’s another kind.
And nobody really talks about that one.
It’s the kind where nothing technically fell apart.
Life didn’t explode.
It didn’t crash and burn.
It just… shifted.
And now you’re standing in the middle of a life that still functions, the bills are paid, the calendar is full, the family is fine,, but something inside you feels slightly out of alignment.
Not broken.
Just not quite you.
The In-Between Space
You’re not lost.
You still know your name.
You still know your responsibilities.
You still know how to show up.
But you’re in between.
Between who you were
and who you’re becoming.
Between the woman who carried everyone
and the woman who wonders what she wants now.
Between the season that defined you
and the season that hasn’t fully introduced itself yet.
That in-between space is uncomfortable.
There’s no applause there.
No clear direction.
No dramatic storyline.
Just a quiet recalibration.
And recalibration feels like restlessness at first.
Functioning Fine… Thinking More
From the outside, you’re doing great.
You’re responsible.
Capable.
Strong.
But the late-night thoughts have gotten louder.
The questions are coming more often.
You find yourself staring out the window a little longer than you used to.
You scroll, then pause.
You say “I’m fine,” and technically you are… but you also know that’s not the whole truth.
Something is shifting internally.
And because it isn’t loud, you start questioning it.
Am I ungrateful?
Am I just bored?
Is this a phase?
No.
Its growth.
Quiet growth rarely announces itself with fireworks.
You Don’t Need Motivation
This is the part I wish more people understood.
When you’re in this season, you don’t need a hype speech.
You don’t need someone yelling, “Reinvent yourself!”
You don’t need a five-step plan to burn your life down and rebuild it in 30 days.
You need clarity.
Clarity feels different.
It feels like sitting still long enough to hear your own thoughts again.
It feels like sorting what’s real from what’s expected.
It feels like asking, “What actually fits me now?”
Not who you were at 35.
Not who everyone still thinks you are.
Not who you had to be to survive.
Who are you now?
Because Change Isn’t Always Loud.
Sometimes change looks like grief that softened but never left.
Sometimes it looks like menopause and realizing your body and emotions are renegotiating everything.
Sometimes it’s an empty room where kids used to live.
Sometimes caregiving ends, and suddenly you don’t know who you are without being needed every second.
Sometimes it’s a career that still pays well but feels un-motivating
Sometimes it’s simply waking up one morning and realizing:
“I am not the same woman I was.”
And that realization isn’t a crisis.
It’s information.
The Part Nobody Says Out Loud
There is nothing wrong with you for outgrowing a version of yourself.
There is nothing dramatic about needing to recalibrate.
There is nothing selfish about wanting your next chapter to feel aligned instead of just responsible.
This season isn’t about starting over.
It’s about listening.
It’s about honoring the quiet nudge instead of ignoring it until it turns into something louder.
Where Blue Jeans & Coffee Beans Lives
Blue Jeans & Coffee Beans was never about fixing anyone.
It was never about pushing reinvention or selling hustle.
It lives in this exact space.
The in-between.
The quiet shifts.
The honest questions.
The mornings with coffee in your hands and thoughts you can’t quite name.
It’s denim tough, because you’ve survived real things.
It’s calico kind, because strength without softness turns into armor.
It’s caffeine-fueled because clarity sometimes begins with sitting still long enough to feel it. You don’t need to “start over.”
You need clarity for what comes next.
And clarity doesn’t rush.Live, rather than
It waits for you to look at it honestly.
And when you do — that’s where the next chapter quietly begins.
#coffeegrounds #wildgrace